Northamptonshire Youth Offending Service

Keep Safe during Covid 19... Domestic Violence .....dont accept it.

 

 

 

If you or someone you know is experiencing or has experienced domestic abuse or coercive control, you may be feeling more vulnerable or anxious due to the social distancing measures in place, or if you and your family are having to self-isolate.

What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse is any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence, abuse, honour-based abuse or forced marriage between intimate partners or family members aged 16 years or over, regardless of gender, sexuality or ethnic group. This includes, but is not limited to:

Controlling behaviour – abusers use a range of tactics to make victims subordinate and/or dependent, such as:

  • Isolating the victim from sources of support

  • Exploiting the victim's resources and capacities for personal gain

  • Depriving the victim of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape

  • Regulating the victim's everyday behaviour

    Coercive behaviour - acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used by the abuser to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

    Physical abuse and sexual abuse - the use of physical force against someone that injures or endangers that person. Sexual abuse is a form of physical abuse; forced sex, even by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence.

    Emotional or psychological abuse - includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behaviour also fall under emotional abuse.

    Honour-based abuse - there's no honour in threatening or harming people with violence. However, a small minority of women and men experience violence and threats from their family or community in order to protect their perceived ‘honour’. There's nothing religious or cultural about this violence.

    Help and support

    It’s important to know that although restrictions are in place due to coronavirus, there is still help and support available to you both locally and nationally:

  • Potential victims can call The National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day).

  • Women’s Aid offers victims a live web chat service.

  • Male victims can call Respect on 0808 8010 327 (during their office hours)

  • LGBT victims can call the GALOP phone line on 0800 999 5428.

  • Chayn provides online help and resources in a number of languages on how to identify manipulative situations and how friends can support those being abused.

    For support within Northamptonshire, you can contact:

  • VOICE - (currently providing telephone and video support due to the coronavirus pandemic) - call 0300 303 1965. You can also download the Voice Home Support Hub app (please note that it won't open in Internet Explorer)

  • EVE or call 01604 230311

  • Northampton Domestic Abuse Service (NDAS) or call 0300 0120154

    If it comes to a crisis point

    Don’t threaten to leave, research shows that you are most at risk when you separate. Ask for help to leave as safely as possible, from a professional or support worker by calling the 24hr National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 for advice, or the Police on 101.

    If you feel that you or someone else is in danger, always call 999. If you can’t speak try to make a noise, like coughing, and then tap ‘55’ on the keypad. The Police will know you need help, and will ask you to follow their instructions.